Extreme weather, fluctuating markets, busy calendars, and limited resources. For anyone, on or off the farm, that list could describe any day ending in “y.” And it often seems that when one thing goes wrong, another headache, or even heartache, is waiting close behind.
When we see friends facing an obvious crisis, our instinct is to reach out. We call, visit, bring a meal or lend a hand. That is what neighbors do. But what about the quieter struggles, the difficult days hidden behind a familiar smile, a firm handshake or the words, “I’m fine”?
It is easy for someone to become isolated in his or her own world, especially when despair makes it difficult to see the nearby community.
September is Suicide Prevention Month, and Missouri Farm Bureau recognizes the urgency of this issue. We have addressed mental health and suicide prevention several times this year because the devastating impact of suicide on farm families, friends and rural communities cannot be ignored. This is more than a difficult topic; it demands awareness, compassion and action.
Whether someone wears muddy boots on a farm or dress clothes in an office, life can change in an instant. Markets fall. Crops fail. Relationships change. Illness arrives. When circumstances beyond our control shake the foundation beneath us, it can be difficult to accept what we cannot change and focus on what we can. The still of the night after everyone goes to bed can dredge up the “what ifs” in our minds.
Farming brings its own pressures. It demands long hours, often spent alone, with livelihoods depending on weather, markets and decisions made far beyond the farm gate. Agriculture values strength and resolve: Dig in, finish the job and rest later.
But strength does not mean silence.
Research has found that suicide rates among agricultural workers is 2-5x higher than the national average. Behind those numbers are real people carrying financial strain, family concerns, lost crops, livestock deaths, or the fear of losing a farm that generations worked to build.
Suicide prevention begins with paying attention, not only during an obvious crisis, but during the quiet days. Ask a neighbor how they are doing and then ask again. Make time to listen. Encourage someone who is struggling to seek help.
Most importantly, remind people they do not have to carry every burden alone. And remember that message applies to you and your family too. You are there for your friends, family and neighbors, and they are there for you. No matter the challenges faced, the world is better with you than without you.
If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or find additional resources at FarmStateofMind.org. Reaching out is not a weakness. It is the strongest and most courageous thing a person can do.
